Today marks the first day of my fertility period! You know what that means? It's time to really get down to business! I have seen a lot of couples who make trying to conceive a chore, and learning from those mistakes, I have taken it upon myself to keep things fun for the hubby! Of course he's having the time of his life, not having to worry about makin' his girl climax! I like it too, because I feel like I have been spoiling my husband! I know you might be thinking, why did you start trying before your fertility period? Well, as I mentioned before, we couldn't help ourselves!

I think that it is actually a beautiful thing that a married couple find each other irresistible. Often times, the couples lose their sexual interest in one another because they get used to having that person around. One mistake my husband and I don't make, is that we never take each other for granted. This means, when I wear something new, or when I smell nice, my husband notices. When he cleans up after dinner, or changes our son's diaper, I notice, and I thank him. When he leaves to go to work every morning, I know that that moment could be the last time I ever see him again. Not taking things, or people for granted will open your eyes. You will see things in a new light, that you have never seen before. You actually foresee. You imagine possible outcomes, and instead of letting them overcome you, you accept the possibility and cherish the moments that you do have.

When I see my husband off, we hold each other and pray for one another. I pray for God to protect him, to keep him free of accidents or tickets, to keep him strong against temptation, and to help him find grace with his coworkers and supervisors. He prays for Isaiah, our son, and me; that God would protect us while he's away, and for God to bless us with good health. This is what married couples should be doing. Even at night, while my husband and I lay there in bed, we pray together before cuddling and drifting off into sleep. When I am there, laying in his arms, and him in mine, there is no other place in the whole world we would rather be, and we openly express that with one another.

I never thought that my husband and I could be closer, but this baby-making journey has definitely made me change my mind. When it comes to sex, people are naturally inclined to be selfish. Even "pleasers," still hope to gain something in return. Not being able to orgasm due to trying to increase our chances for a girl has taught me something. Sometimes, it is okay to not have an orgasm, especially when ol' hubster comes home from a long day at work. It's almost like a gift to him because he gets to take the night off!

 As a married couple, and as one flesh, the Bible says that we are to submit ourselves one to another. This means that we are to be submissive, and give up our own wants and desires in order to please our spouse. We worry about their needs, and they worry about ours. In a perfect marriage, (well as perfect as they come,) you will not have to worry about your desires, because your spouse is taking care of them for you. We are to practice this, even if our spouse isn't caring about our desires! That is what unconditional love is!

Unconditional love is saying, "yeah, he/she doesn't deserve this, but I love him/her, and want to please him/her despite how he/she treats me."
Conditional love is saying, "He/She doesn't deserve this, so I am not going to please him/her," or "I will not please him/her until he/she pleases me."

Conditional love isn't true love. When we have that spiteful spirit, we are actually sinning against God! Unconditional love is the love that God has for us, and we are instructed to demonstrate this love in our relationships with others!

Submitting myself to my husband has made trying to conceive fun for the both of us, and has kept the baby-makin' passion alive! I suspect that I will get pregnant pretty quickly considering how fertile both sides of our families are! Well, wish me luck! God bless you all, and I hope that hearts are touched!